What is the Hot Mess Method?

The Hot Mess Method is my approach to home organizing and identity-affirming design that removes the shame from feeling overwhelmed. I understand that life is messy—grief, transitions, ADHD, caregiving, burnout, and just being a person can create a space that feels out of sync with who you are.

This method helps you reconnect with your space, sort through the emotional weight of your stuff, and make things work with what you already have. It's not about perfection—it's about creating a home that fits your body, your story, and your right-now self.

Because let’s be honest: you’re hot—and your space deserves to reflect that.

Do you offer virtual organizing sessions?

No—I don’t currently offer virtual organizing sessions. The Hot Mess Method is a fully hands-on approach to home organizing and interior design, and I need to be physically present in your space to do what I do best.

I work intuitively and spatially—I need to feel the energy of the room, move furniture, test layouts, and try things out until everything starts to click. I ask my clients to trust the process, even when it looks a little chaotic at first. (Yes, you might panic when I move your bookshelf to a wall you never considered. That’s part of the magic.)

Grab a coffee, take a walk, and when you come back, you’ll feel the shift. That’s the Hot Mess Method in action.

How does gender-affirming decor work?

It starts the same way gender expression does—with your vibe.

Everything from how we speak, move, and dress to the colors we choose and textures we gravitate toward is a form of self-expression. Your home should be no different. Gender-affirming decor is about translating your identity—however it’s evolving—into your physical space.

I’ll ask questions like: Who are you right now? What brings you comfort? What feels like euphoria in a room? Then we’ll use layout, lighting, color, and materiality to reflect that version of you.

That might mean removing dysphoria-triggering hand-me-downs, choosing femme- or masc-empowering textures, or simply rearranging your room so you can breathe better in it.

Because your space should affirm you—not fight you. It should feel like a celebration, not a compromise.

You use queer theory and LGBTQ+ language in your descriptions—but I’m not part of the LGBTQ+ community. Can I still use your services?

Absolutely. My services are for anyone who feels overwhelmed, disconnected, or uninspired by their space—regardless of identity or orientation.

You’ll see queer and LGBTQ+ language throughout my site because that’s the lens I work from. Queer theory and identity-affirming design are powerful tools for asking deeper questions about who we are, how we live, and what kind of spaces truly support us.

But this work isn’t about being queer—it’s about being authentic. It’s about home organizing and interior styling that reflects who you are today, not who you’re expected to be. You don’t have to be trans to crave transformation. You don’t have to be queer to want color, ritual, or meaning in your space.

And honestly? I don’t believe anyone is genuinely passionate about eggshell white and copy-paste showroom vibes. You deserve more than beige.

If you’re ready to rediscover what home feels like, you’re in the right place.

What if I don’t like what you did—or it doesn’t feel like me?

First: I hear you. That’s a real fear—especially if you’ve worked with organizers or designers in the past who imposed their taste on you, or left you with a space that felt even less “you” than before.

Here’s the truth: my job isn’t to create a showroom. It’s to help you uncover the space that already wants to exist underneath the overwhelm.

The Hot Mess Method is a collaboration, not a makeover show. I’ll ask you questions, listen to what’s not being said, and watch how you move through your home. If something feels off, we adjust. If you’re having a hard time connecting to the changes, we talk about it. Sometimes, a shift just needs time to settle—and sometimes, we need to try a new layout, texture, or focal point.

You won’t be stuck. And you won’t be alone. Because transformation isn’t just about the room—it’s about the relationship you build with your space.